My last post for 2012--#117 (it seems like only yesterday I did my 100th entry) with 10,224 pageviews after 11 months of blogging.  When I began the blog, I had no idea that I would still be here this December.  The initial blogs were more often about death and atheism and "nothing to be frightened of."  As the months have passed and occasional bouts of writer's block have set in, I've wandered often into politics, law, and literature, as well as trying to write about the daily ups and downs of living with cancer.

The cancer had clearly metastasized by October 2010.  That date seems improbable, given the initial prognosis of less than a year, as we prepare to enter 2013.  By April 2011, the cancer had finally been diagnosed; by May, I was under the knife--and out again with my new titanium and plastic "bones" and joints.  By June, I had begun the daily regimen of chemotherapy and was preparing for radiation of my left scapula and right hip.  I was counting down the days till I could get rid of the abduction brace, and physical and occupational therapists were coming to the house for exercises.  I had consulted my lawyer and rewritten my will.  By January of this year, I decided to start blogging, even though I knew it wasn't going to be an "uplifting" blog about how I'd learned to savor every day or experienced the usual epiphany about living every day as if it were my last.  (There's a very old Peanuts cartoon in which Lucy, trying to convince Charlie Brown that he should change his life, advises him to live every day as if it is his last.  Charlie Brown responds with the anguished cry, "ARRGH!  I'm going to die tomorrow!")

Life during 2012 (and indeed through 2011) has been "diminished" in many ways.  For two years, the farthest I've traveled from home is to Kansas City, and those trips have been to the Med or Cancer Center, though luckily sometimes combined with lunch with friends.  There are many consecutive days when the farthest I travel from home is . . . home.  Between fatigue and diarrhea, going out is too much of an ordeal.  My relationship with food and drink has changed entirely.  I rarely have much appetite, and when I do go out, I fortify myself with Imodium (and now Lomotil) and check for the nearest bathroom.  Almost nothing looks appealing, and Mohamed spends an inordinate amount of time searching for something I'll want to eat.  Sushi is the one exception, so here's a haiku in praise of sushi:

Salmon and tuna
On a denim-colored plate
Sweet eel for dessert

A good friend wrote yesterday after the visit of her elderly mother and a couple of young children that she had grown impatient with "their quirky eating habits, their sleeping needs, their body temps in winter, their infirmities and hypochondriacal tendencies, and on and on."  That sentence was good for a laugh, as it describes me perfectly (except, I hope, for the hypochondria).  The day anyone finds me without a hoodie (I'm always cold these days) means that I'm getting ready to go out.

Still, it's been a very good year in many ways--not the least of which is that I'm still typing away long after I had expected the blog to have fallen silent.  I keep occupied at home and don't get bored.  (Perhaps being an only child was good training.)  Mohamed continues his unwavering love and support with incredible grace.  I've re-established contact with many old friends--from high school, from undergraduate and graduate school days, from ex-Yugoslavia and Bulgaria and, of course, France.  And I've been entertained and enlivened by visits from friends from all over Europe and America.  I've read and read.  And at a broader level, the election brought much good news, and LGBT issues continued their winning ways, though it remains to be seen what will happen when SCOTUS makes its rulings in two cases in June. 

I've tried to stay faithful to my mantra--cancer, shmancer, abi gesund.  And for the most part, I've stayed pretty healthy.  The cumulative effects of cancer and its treatment have been wearing, but I'm still alive and kicking, not in any real pain, and interested in matters great and small. 

One minor resolution for 2013: to change the layout of the blog.  It must be a strain to read white type on a dark background, so I promise a new look for the next year.

Wishing everyone a happy new year's eve and Bonne Année, Bonne Santé 2013.

I hope that everyone had a very merry Christmas with good gifts and not a lump of coal in sight.  Happy Kwanzaa, which begins today, as well.  One of my Christmas presents was that the blog passed 10,000 pageviews on Christmas day.  I still have a ways to go to catch up with Psy, but I'm working on it.

A few entries ago, I compared Alice Munro to Nathaniel Hawthorne and Flannery O'Connor, two authors who share a number of characteristics.  My point in that entry was that the three authors were better read in small doses because the motifs and mannerisms in their work remain constant and thus become too apparent.  Hawthorne and O'Connor both found their form--almost allegorical morality stories--early on, but both suffered from a thinness of material.  (Melville, the other great mid-19th century American novelist had the opposite problem: he never lacked for material, but his novels are often shapeless and unwieldy--sometimes achieving greatness, sometimes remaining a mess.)  For both Hawthorne and O'Connor, the story is always an introduction to the reality of evil and a suggestion of the consequences of that loss of innocence.  Both use rather obvious symbols (especially color) and apt names.  Where they most differ is in their response to evil.  For Hawthorne, we have to accept the double-edged nature of humans.  Young Goodman Brown (Hawthorne had already used gray as a melange of black and white) cannot accept the imperfections of his wife, Faith, (and of human exemplars of faith) with her pink (neither purely scarlet nor purely white) ribbons.  And in his cynicism Brown becomes himself "the chief horror" of the scene.  The devoutly Catholic O'Connor is more pitiless, and her choice is stark and dark.  As the Misfit says (the evil characters often get the good lines) in "A Good Man Is Hard to Find,"  If [Jesus] did what He said, then it's nothing for you to do but throw away everything and follow Him, and if He didn't, then it's nothing for you to do but enjoy the few minutes you got left the best way you can--by killing somebody or burning down his house or doing some other meanness to him.  No pleasure but meanness."  There is finally no gray or brown or pink in O'Connor's work.

Perhaps O'Connor's best known story, "Good Country People," is a variation of the old farmer's daughter/travelling saleman joke.  The farmer is Mrs. Hopewell, a relentless optimist who speaks almost entirely in clichés.  One of the ironies is that Mrs. Hopewell doesn't even grasp the import of her hackneyed speeches, most of which are of the order of "Everybody's different" and "It takes all kinds to make the world go round."  While she spouts these, she lumps everyone into a few categories, one of which, and the most dangerous, is "good country people" or "the salt of the earth."  The daughter is Hulga (née Joy), who has a Ph.D. in philosophy (much to her mother's consternation), has a wooden leg and a heart disease, and is a confirmed nihilist.  O'Connor loves tricking her audience with a double perspective: for much of the story, we identify with Hulga, simply because she seems so much more intelligent than her mother, and her comments are cynically funny.  But it is a trick, as the travelling salesman/mysterious stranger soon reveals.  Obstensibly selling Bibles, the pseudononymously named Manley Pointer disrupts the farm's equilibrium.  The mother takes him for good country people; Hulga sneers at his naiveté.  But she also hatches a plan to seduce him and convert him to nihilism. 

She's not a very experienced seductress, but they eventually find themselves alone in the hayloft. Pointer bringing his valise with him.  He's fascinated by Hulga's wooden leg, asks her to remove it and then wants to remove it and put it back on himself.  Finally, he keeps it away from her, and opening his valise reveals a hollow Bible with a flask inside, pornographic playing cards, and condoms.  The nihilist Hulga has nothing to fall back on but calling him a hypocrite and not good country people at all.  But Pointer isn't a hypocrite.  And he's certainly not good.  As he tells her, he's been believing in nothing since he was born.  He takes his suitcase--and her leg--and disappears, the seduction and the "conversion" silly fantasies.  If as Hulga believes, love and God are illusions, so too must be evil.  By the end of the story, Hulga and her nihilism are left both literally and figuratively without a leg to stand on.

There's one more important character in the story, again with an appropriate name, Mrs. Freeman.  O'Connor's Catholicism is slathered with a heavy layer of original sin, and being a free man is, for O'Connor, nothing to aspire to.  Mrs. Freeman is a nosy busybody (like Hulga, though more subtly, she condescends to Mrs. Hopewell) who is focused on imperfection.  She had "a special fondness for the details of secret infections, hidden deformities, assaults upon children.  Of diseases, she preferred the lingering or incurable."  She has two daughters, Glynese and Carramae (Hulga calls them Glycerin and Caramel), the latter of whom is pregnant, and Mrs. Freeman loves recounting how many times Carramae has vomited since the last account.  Despite seemingly having no important role in the action, Mrs. Freeman is the subject of both the first and last paragraph of the story.  At the end, her gaze touches the disappearing image of Manley Pointer.  She turns her attention to an "evil-smelling onion shoot."  "Some can't be that simple," she said.  "I know I never could."

One of my guilty TV pleasures is HGTV's "House Hunters International."  I used to watch "House Hunters," but the endless recaps of what we've just seen three minutes earlier and the repetitive scripts with everyone making the same demands (open concept, granite countertops, stainless steel appliances, two sinks in an en suite bathroom) have made it a parody of itself.  The international version is still interesting, if often a little baffling: the buyers all seem to have an excess of money over taste and little understanding of the language or culture of the country they're moving to.  They don't know what a bidet is or why a washing machine might be in the kitchen.  If they want something "traditional," they complain about small spaces and "dated" (a favorite word) furnishings; if they want something modern, they complain about its lack of character.  Watching those who are renting always makes me grateful for the good luck I had in finding apartments to rent when I lived and taught abroad.

My first experience was moving for a year to Skopje, Macedonia (then a part of Yugoslavia).  All the Fulbrighters who would spend the year in Yugoslavia met for orientation in Belgrade, and there I made friends with a young American couple, Larry and Suzanne, who were also going to be in Skopje.  I had spent part of the summer studying Serbo-Croatian (as it was then called; now that term is too fraught to be used), the closest language to Macedonian I could find at KU.  That meant I was the spokesperson when some of us would go out on our own in Belgrade.  Given my feeble mastery of the language, we had some unexpected experiences and surprising meals.  Even though we had just met, Larry, Suzanne, and I decided that if it was easier, we'd get an apartment together.  That turned out to be a great decision, as the three of us had a fine time.  With the help of Velko, the department chair, we found a huge apartment to share.  The apartment on Ulitsa Kozle was a bit far from the city center, but a bus stopped right outside our apartment--and going into town we were the second stop, so it was empty.  Coming back from the city center, however, wasn't so easy, and we all three learned to push those ahead of us with an elbow in the back like a local would.  The apartment had a very large combination kitchen, dining area, and living room.  Three huge windows looked out on the foothills of the mountains that surrounded Skopje, and we could watch the gypsies and their donkeys as they went up and down the hills.  Colleagues from the university donated enough furniture so that the room didn't look too barren, and it make a great open space for parties.  The only drawback was that I slept on the couch.  I didn't mind that arrangement, but it did mean that I could never go to bed till the last visitor left.  There was a real bedroom for Larry and Suzanne and two bathrooms.  Mine was tiny, but modern.  The shower wasn't separated by anything from the rest of the bathroom, and it took me a while to remember that I needed to put the toilet paper outside the door when I took a shower.  One problem is always doing laundry (there were no laundromats), but we hired a gypsy family who picked up our dirty clothes once a week and returned them clean and ironed.  (There's a sentence not many of you have ever written!) 

Housing was already arranged for me when I arrived in Sofia, Bulgaria--an apartment in a huge complex of Soviet-style blocks.  The complex was called Druzhba Dve (friendship--or more accurately 'comrade-ship'--two).  I should have known this wasn't going to be a happy arrangement when my Bulgarian seat mate on the plane from Frankfurt to Sofia sadly shook his head and gave me his phone number in case I needed help in finding a new place to live.  On seeing the buildings, which were falling apart, I thought they had been constructed in the 20s or 30s, but no, they were from the 1970s.  There was trash everywhere.  There were packs of dogs and groups of gypsies (there's a theme emerging here) that would go through anything that was actually put in the dumpsters, leaving piles of trash on the ground.  (The locals were often nostalgic for the good old, Communist days when many Vietnamese came to Sofia, because, so the legend went, they solved the roaming dog problem by eating them.)  Many residents didn't bother with the dumpsters and just threw bags of trash out of the windows.  Falling trash was a common sight.  The apartment itself was unbelievably depressing.  The bathroom was an interior concrete room with a faucet for "showering" coming out of the wall at waist level and dispensing cold water.  The toilet hadn't been cleaned since construction days, and water sprayed out of the topless tank every time I flushed.  The lock on the door worked sporadically, though I was more often locked inside the apartment than outside.  I had visions of my skeleton being found months later, my bony hand still trying to turn the key to get out.

Also living in Druzhba was an American couple, Andrew and Michelle, and Michelle and I set off to find a more pleasant place to live.  We went through an agency and together looked at perhaps a dozen equally depressing apartments until, feeling like ugly Americans, we emphasized that we were looking for 'luxe.'  One day we ventured out separately and both had success, finding two apartments that were about 100 meters from each other.  When we went to sign the lease, despite my shaky Bulgarian, I did read a sentence that said that the landlord could not raise the rent more than 300% every four months.  The agent was nonchalant: "That's if you're paying in levove, but you'll be paying in dollars," so that sentence was crossed out.  My apartment was on the 13th floor of a newer building.  It was beautiful.  I certainly wasn't superstitious about living on the 13th floor, but that did become a hassle when the electricity went out and I had to walk up twelve flights of stairs or was caught in the elevator.  (I learned which panel concealed a manual door release.)  The landlady, Maya, who became a wonderful friend that year, was an artist for the Communist city government, but as Communism was belatedly collapsing in Bulgaria, she was going to live in her atelier while renting her apartment for dollars.  Since no major purchases could be made in levove (only in dollars or Deutschemarks), with my deposit she bought a washing machine for the apartment.  One problem solved.  The apartment was beautifully furnished, had two bedroom, a large bathroom, and even a balcony, though there wasn't much to see except unfinished construction sites and falling trash.  Whenever other Fulbrighters from around Bulgaria came to Skopje, mine was the preferred apartment for sleeping.

In Meknes, Morocco, I stayed in a downtown hotel while the department chair and I searched for apartments.  After several fruitless attempts, we decided to go to an agency.  On the steps of the building we met a woman who had an apartment to rent.  She was clearly very rich.  She and her husband were from the Rif Mountains (the primary source of Moroccan hashish) and lived in Amsterdam, where they ran several cafés.  But they came to Morocco for a month each year, kept one apartment there for their yearly visit, and had another in the city center which they had never rented.  We went to her apartment for coffee; it was huge and furnished entirely in furniture imported from Italy.  There was also a room full of furniture from the other apartment; the agent had told her that the apartment would be easier to rent unfurnished.  We walked to the second apartment, and it was huge--two salons, a big kitchen, two bedrooms, two bathrooms.  And it was also very empty.  Despite the chair's insistence that I could get cheap furniture at Ikea, I wanted the real stuff, so for an extra few dollars a month (money was clearly not her primary concern), I rented it furnished.  Now, nothing gets done quickly in Morocco, but money speaks there as well as anywhere else, and within 24 hours every bit of furniture, three crystal chandeliers, and several crystal wall sconces were back in place. As an extra bonus, she bought a washing machine.   I felt as if I were living in a palace--for, I think, $400/month.  I was in the heart of the heart of the city.  I lived right above my bank and was surrounded by stores and restaurants.  The bathrooms even had "real" toilets, as opposed to the "Turkish toilets" that were much more common.  (The chair was building a new house the year I was there, and after he had had installed regular toilets, his wife made him take them out because they were unsanitary and replace them with holes in the floor.)  When we had left the agency the first day, we were followed by a furtive man who eventually trailed us to the apartment I rented.  No one knew who he was.  Then I began getting letters from the agency, which wanted a cut, threatening to expose me to my employer and to the American embassy.  The agency, as was clear from the letters, didn't know my name or who my employer was, but they still made me uncomfortable.  Sometimes, the man would appear at my apartment, though I never opened it to him, so he would slide another letter under the door.  Finally, since I didn't know what to do about him and the chair was equally ineffectual, I wrote the landlady (I never saw her husband), who said that her husband would take care of him.  That was the end of the threatening letters.

So watching "House Hunters International" leads to some moments of nostalgia and a renewed sense of how serendipitous my own apartment hunting international was.

Ezra Pound wrote

Winter is icumen in,
Lhude sing Goddamm,
Raineth drop and staineth slop,
And how the wind doth ramm!
Sing: Goddamm.
Skiddeth bus and sloppeth us,
An ague hath my ham.
Freezeth river, turneth liver,
Damm you; Sing: Goddamm.
Goddamm, Goddamm, 'tis why I am, Goddamm,
So 'gainst the winter's balm.
Sing goddamm, damm, sing goddamm,
Sing goddamm, sing goddamm, DAMM.
And those are my sentiments exactly.  After two horrible winters, last year Topeka had virtually none at all.  But the first big snow storm of this season arrived here last night.  I woke up at 2:30 a.m. and looked out the window to see that the rain and sleet had changed to blowing snow.  We didn't really get that much snow--just a couple of inches--and it's ending, but the streets are icy, the winds are howling, and at 7 a.m. it's still pitch black outside.  Even our german shepherd has little interest in venturing into the outdoors. 

When I got up in the middle of the night, I did make a minor trip to the john, but one of the many ways in which my kidney cancer hasn't followed the normal pattern is that my kidneys seem to be working better than ever.  (Kenahoreh/m-sha'allah!)  I haven't had any blood in the urine, I always sleep through the night, and even if I feel as if I need to go, I just roll over and go back to sleep.  That's one reason I'm reluctant to have the cancerous kidney removed, though the more important ones are that doing so won't prolong my life and that there are several risks involved with the surgery.  We'll review that decision a month from now after the next full battery of tests at the Med Center.

I still haven't gotten the tincture of opium.  I was surprised that Walgreens carried it at all, but although it was in stock, the bottle had been opened, so they wanted to order a new bottle.  After that delay--it's been ten days since I submitted the prescription--the insurance company denied coverage.  The retail cost for a bottle is nearly $500.  Since I'm in the catastrophic phase of Medicare Part D (with the costs of my meds, I move very quickly into the last, catastrophic phase), with the insurance coverage I pay only 5% of the retail price.  I can appeal, though the automated message announcing the denial gave no reasons and listed so many steps that I'll let Dr. Vanveldhuizen do the appeal, as he has, I'm sure, lots of experience with insurance denials.  At first I was rather indifferent to switching from Imodium to the tincture, but once I read that it was the same as laudanum and graduate school memories of dipping into De Quincey's "Confessions of an Opium Eater" came to mind, I've become more impatient.  I'll have to wait, though, till the appeal is processed.  If it's successful, perhaps the blog will become more hallucinatory. 

Last night, just as President Obama was finishing speaking about the unspeakable in Newtown, two Topeka police officers were shot and killed, three blocks from the house where I lived for most of the 1970s.  Two murdered Topeka policemen, 28 dead in Newtown, 10 shot in Chicago during the weekend, over 32,000 dead last year from gun violence in America.  As I type that sentence, Sen. Joe Manchin of West Virginia, life-long NRA member with a 100% pro-gun voting record, is saying that this is a time for a national conversation about guns in America.  We've talked for decades.  Dialogue is delay.  We don't need a conversation; we need action.

The pro-gun lobby makes several arguments, all of them specious.  One of the most common--and most ridiculous--is that we need more guns, not fewer.  If only everyone was armed, violence would be reduced.  At the moment, the Kansas legislature is considering a bill that would end the exemption for colleges and universities to our concealed carry law.  Last session, moderate Republicans managed to kill the bill in the Senate.  But all but one of them was purged during the Republican primary, and chances are slim that with the wingnuts in control, the bill can be stopped.  I know I'd have felt safer as a professor with the knowledge that any number of my students might be legally carrying a concealed weapon.  If the six- and seven-year-olds in Newtown had only been armed...

The NRA and its allies argue that laws regulating guns don't work.  The guns in Newtown had been purchased legally and Connecticut's relatively strict gun laws didn't stop the killing.  But that's not an argument against gun laws; it's an argument about how weak they are.  Over 40% of guns are purchased at gun shows, where there are no background checks or waiting periods.  Semi-automatic guns are legal, as are clips with over ten bullets.  As long as guns laws are inconsistent from state to state, are full of loopholes, and end up regulating almost nothing, the problem with such laws is not that they exist, but that their existence has almost no effect.

Perhaps the favorite argument is based on the "slippery slope": if government can regulate any guns, it will be able to regulate all guns.  (In virtually every freshman comp class, the slippery slope argument is among those discussed as a logical fallacy.)   And they argue, of course, that the second amendment prohibits regulation of gun ownership.  Even conservative Supreme Court Chief Justice Warren Burger said after he had retired that that argument was the greatest "fraud" perpetrated in Constitutional law.  When in 2008 the Supreme Court struck down the District of Columbia's gun laws in the Heller case, it seemed a decisive blow against gun laws.  But the Court ruled only that gun owners have a legitimate right to use guns in self-defense in their homes.  Perhaps in some perverse way, District of Columbia v. Heller can be used as a sort of dam to end the slippery slope argument.  The government cannot take away all rights to gun ownership; that's been settled and leaves space for a slew of sensible regulations. 

(The slippery slope tactic is also a favorite of those opposing same-sex marriage.  As Sen. Lindsay Graham, always a paragon of clear thinking, said last week, if a same-sex couple can be allowed marriage in the name of love, why not an owner and his dog? one man with several wives?  But why not go one step back up the slope: if a heterosexual couple can be allowed to marry in the name of love, why not a man and his dog?  The most egregious example of such "logic" is probably Justice Scalia's argument that approving same-sex marriages would lead to moral and legal approval of bestiality, of murder.  When challenged recently about the offensive and inane comparison, Scalia said disingenuously that it wasn't a slippery slope tactic but reductio ad absurdum.  But surely as a product of the best Catholic education with its tradition of teaching logic, Scalia knows that the reduction to absurdity is an argument you use to demolish your opponent's stance, not your own.  The sentence about arming six-year-olds--that's a use of reductio ad absurdum.  Yes, Scalia's statement was absurd all right, but that's to his shame.)

As we think about gun violence in America, one fact should not be overlooked: of the 32,000+ Americans who were killed with guns last year in America, over 18,000 (about 55%) were not murders but suicides.  I've had little experience with gun violence, but the one time I was confronted with it was indelible.  Over two decades ago, when my colleague and co-author Virginia and I were working on the letters of Karl Menninger, four of us were scheduled to attend the funeral of a Menninger psychiatrist, a man who had led a long and productive life and who died a sudden and painless death, a "good death," as it were.  But Barbara, one of the four, didn't show up to meet her driver.  Barbara had a long history of depression and hospitalization.  I told the person who was to drive her to call the police, but Laura said she couldn't do that.  So on a hot, gray, rainy day, I went to Barbara's house.  The windows were open despite the rain, the lights were on, her car was there.  No one came to the door when I knocked and called.  Instead of calling the police, I got the keys to the house from a neighbor.  When I entered, I saw a carton of cigarettes, still in a brown paper sack, on the living room table.  I felt a sense of relief.  I turned right to enter the bedroom.  Perhaps Barbara had taken an overdose, and I would find her on the bed, hopefully in time to call 911.  She wasn't there, and my relief heightened.  I left the bedroom, turned right and glanced into the bathroom.  There was Barbara in the bathtub, the wall splattered with her blood.  She had shot herself in the head.  That image I will never forget.  I found the phone, but it took several attempts to dial the police.  The dial itself seemed sticky; I felt as if I couldn't get it to turn.  When I did succeed and the police arrived, I had to do the interview on the porch because I was going to vomit if I had to remain in the claustrophic house.  Depressed, Barbara had walked to a gun shop, looked over the selection, changed her mind, stopped at a grocery store (the same one where the two Topeka policemen were killed last night) to buy a carton of cigarettes.  Once home, she had changed her mind again, returned to the gun shop, and with no background check or waiting period, bought the gun with which she had taken her own life.

Over 18,000 Americans last year made the same choice.  Over 18,000 Americans bought, borrowed, or stole guns.  There is no good death.  There is no good ending to this story.  We can hope only that it's not a story that closes with "to be continued." 

Since the last few weeks haven't been great--my energy level has been low and the G-I problems have been more severe again--I've spend a lot of time reading.  The major undertaking was Bull by the Horns by Sheila Bair, who was head of the FDIC during the worst days of the financial crisis.  It was very slow reading, in part because I was so out of my depth.  After I'd read about securitizations, I'd have to stop, put the book down, and review (and try to grasp) exactly what I'd just read before moving on to how tranches work and their consequences (advantage to the rich, of course).  Another pause, another tentative understanding before moving on to credit default swaps.  I learned, I think, a lot, though how sure my grasp is is questionable.  Bair is not shy about giving herself credit at every step of the way, and again, not having a clear context, I'd find myself nodding along and giving her the approbation she wants--and then having to remind myself that her perspective is hardly disinterested.

Relief arrives in the character portrayals along the way.  In the background are Alan Greenspan and Robert Rubin, Clinton's secretary of the treasury, with their unbridled faith in unregulated markets and their confidence that the "irrational exuberance" was just that--irrational and, thus, temporary.  But the bad guy during her tenure is Timothy Geithner, about whom she has absolutely nothing good to say.  Among politicians, despite the fact that Bair is a Republican, Barney Frank is clearly the one for whom she has the most respect as prescient in understanding the coming crisis and working both before and during it to move policy in the right direction. 

At the end of the book, she gives credit to her husband, who has edited the book.  Editing, however, doesn't seem to be his forte, as the book is full of clichés, of clashing tones and registers, and of needless repetition.  A more critical, less involved editor would have wielded his blue pencil more frequently.

After Bair's book, I gave myself a break and read Alice Munro's new collection of short stories, Dear Life.  These are quiet, psychologically astute stories of people living lives of quiet resignation.  Munro captures the dreariness and insularity of small-town Canadian life at the end of the last century and of the consequences--both tentative and tenuous--of the choices her characters make.  Individually, the stories are effective, but collectively they suffer from a thinness of material.  She seems to me a short story writer like Hawthorne or Flannery O'Connor who is best read a story or two at a time, not straight through.  After four or five of them, I began longing for something to happen, for a more interesting variation on her theme, for a narrator who wasn't so hesitant.  Her stylistic devices (and I think the same thing is true with Hawthorne and O'Connor) become more tics than considered decisions.  The stories are lovely, perfect for The New Yorker, where most of them first appeared and where, I realized, I had read most of them before.  But it's a book better dipped into than read through.

And last night, I finished Ian McEwan's Sweet Tooth, a "spy" novel set in the drab and dreary London of the early 1970s.  I was first introduced to McEwan in France and read three novels in a row in French, a rather counter-intuitive procedure.  I began with Enduring Love, the title of which is masterfully ambiguous.  (The French title, Folle d'amour, can also be read two ways, but doesn't have the richness of the original.)  I loved the first three-quarters of Enduring Love, but thought it fell apart completely at the end.  I've had the same reaction to everything else I've read by McEwan: he's very clever at complicating plots and characters, but he's too clever by half, and the last half of Sweet Tooth has the same problem as he disentangles the story.  The main character and narrator is the Serena (an ironic name indeed) Frome, which she tells everyone rhymes with 'plume,' a red herring that goes nowhere.  She is hired by MI5 in a program called Sweet Tooth (a name which never acquires much resonance in the novel) to recruit unsuspecting writers with the hope that they will lead to a cultural enthusiasm for the West in the last years before Communism crumbles.  Serena bumbles her way through a variety of men and becomes increasingly committed (as much as she's capable of commitment) to what she's doing--or at least to the man she's in charge of.  For half the book I was hooked, even though I knew that I couldn't trust anything I was reading.  But by the second half, the dreariness of the setting, the internecine quarrels, and the coy hints that double agency applied not only to the business of spying but also to that of writing (and reading) became tedious.  Although Serena prefers traditional fiction (and is a voracious, but indiscriminate reader, announcing at one point that Valley of the Dolls is the equal of anything Austen wrote), McEwan's novel is self-reflective meta-fiction.  There are real editors and authors in the novel, thinly disguised characters based on real people, and a young novelist, Serena's charge, whose life and writings parallel those of McEwan.  By the last half, the games wear thin, the coyness cloys, and the ending fails to surprise.

There is one image, though, that sticks with me.  Serena has had an affair with an older man who, after he leaves her, she discovers has been dying of cancer.  She regrets her impatience with his increasing need for naps.  "Sleep comes on like the tide," she thinks.  I think I'll borrow the simile.  Not only is it accurate and suggestive, but after writing too often about the "black wall" and the "crashes," I need a new metaphor.  "Like the tide" it is.

Every six weeks, I go back to the KU Med/Cancer Center in Kansas City.  The appointments alternate between brief ones, where I have blood tests and a consultation with the oncologist, and full days with the complete battery of tests, including CT scans.  These are usually draining, not because of the tests themselves but because I can't eat or drink for four hours before the CT scans and then there is always a long break before the consultation while all the tests are analyzed.  On these days (the next one is January 25th), we can either get up very early so that all is over by mid-afternoon or go later in the morning but not get home till much later--neither an attractive option.

Yesterday we went to KC for what should have been an easy day.  The bloodwork was scheduled at 11:45, so we didn't have to get up early and rush to KC.  I could eat breakfast and drink coffee.  And then the consultation was at 12:20.  I was sure we'd be out by 1.  The day didn't, however, go as planned.  We got there on time and were called by an overly cheerful young woman to review my address, phone, insurance, and next of kin (Mohamed).  I think I'm quite mobile, but as I got up from that brief interview, she said, "I see you're having trouble getting around, so why don't you just wait in the anteroom of the lab?"  We sat there and were quickly called for the blood work.  The guy who drew the blood is my least favorite phlebotomist.  I don't mind needles (as witnessed by the roughly 600 shots Mohamed has been giving me in the stomach every morning), and I have, as I'm always told, great veins.  But somehow this tech always makes it hurt--not a lot, just enough so that I'm aware of the needle going in.  And then we returned to the lobby for what we thought would be a 20-minute wait to see the doctor.

After 50 minutes of sitting (and we hadn't brought anything to read since we thought this would be fast), I went to the desk to see about the delay.  The receptionist checked and assured me that I would be the next to be called.  Another 45 minutes passed; at least a dozen people were called.  I was becoming increasingly tired and grumpy and hungry--as I hadn't eaten anything since breakfast.  I glared periodically at the receptionist, who clearly had no control over what was happening.   Finally I heard my name, and it was my turn to have my vitals taken (everything was fine) and to be shunted into the small exam room, where there is always another long wait.  Dr. Van stuck his head in and said he's be with us in a second.  "No, you won't," I said.  Finally, Dr. Williams, the same Fellow that we'd seen last time, came in.  Luckily, he is very relaxed and friendly, and he seems both competent and knowledgable.  When he asked how I was, I was tempted to say "tired and grumpy," but I perked up.

The blood results were all close to normal range.  Of major decisions to be made in January, Dr. Williams said that while he'd always defer to the surgeon, he thought the benefits of surgery to remove the kidney would outweigh potential harms.  And then we talked about the more immediate problems of the chemo side effects.  Although I haven't blogged about it, the last few weeks haven't been good.  Until last Saturday, I hadn't left the house for a week: the fatigue was too overwhelming and unpredictable (except for its inevitability), and the diarrhea had returned with a vengeance (ditto).  At the urging of a friend, I brought up the possibility of taking tincture of opium to calm my stomach.  I had mentioned this previously to the physician assistant, but I don't think she was familiar with it and didn't give it serious consideration.  Dr. Williams, however, said he had used it before, and if I wanted to try it, he'd write me a script for it.  So as soon as I get to the pharmacy, I'll stop the Imodia (which I've decided is the correct plural of Imodium) and try the tincture.  He asked about the anti-nausea medication, which I said worked, but took time to take effect.  He said it was available in suppository form, which worked more quickly, but I decided to pass on that.  The pills work to quiet the nausea; the problem isn't really the speed so much as that even once the nausea has passed, I still don't have an appetite.

By the time Dr. Van entered, it was nearly 3 p.m., and he was clearly flustered from running so late, so his visit was very brief.  He always runs behind schedule, but this was the latest he'd been and the first time I felt as if I was getting short shrift.

I left the office with two prescriptions, neither of which can be phoned in but have to be presented in person: one was a refill of the Percocet (Oxycodene plus acetomeniphen), the other the new one for tincture of opium.  The next time I show up at Walgreens, I'm going to seem like a serious druggie.

By the time we left, we were exhausted and hungry.  It was the wrong time of day to go to a nice restaurant, and I didn't have the patience for a long meal (Mohamed is much more patient than I am), so we stopped at Panera's, where I wolfed down (rare for me these days) a turkey and avocado sandwhich, and then we headed off to Topeka, me sleeping, Mohamed staying awake long enough to drive.  When we got home, we both crashed for 90 minutes, much to the displeasure of our dog who missed her dinner time.  She should complain!  And so it's back to the routine, the "new normal," which after 18 months isn't so new anymore.  Tests will be over for Mohamed on Thursday, and we have lunches and dinners on tap for Friday and next Monday.  Both of us are looking forward to a nice, four-week break before school resumes and the next, longer appointment is on the calendar.

Happy Hanukkah--a festival of light during these longest nights of the year.  It's no accident that both Hanukkah and Christmas occur near the winter solstice as promises of new life and light.  I always find it depressing when it's dark when I get up and dark by late afternoon.  For twenty years, beginning in 1987, I spent almost every holiday in France, and it always cheered me knowing that by the time I returned to Topeka, even though winter had just begun, the days had started to lengthen.  By this date, my tickets were purchased, my two composition classes each semester had written their final papers, which I had graded, and there was nothing left but to give two finals, grade them, and turn in my finals grades.  If the exams were scheduled for the end of the week, I remember standing over the students, grabbing their tests after two hours, and rushing off to grade them.

I'd fly to Paris, take the Métro to the Gare de l'Est and then take my chances on how long I'd have to wait for the next train to Metz, three hours to the east.  (Now there is a TGV, the superfast train, that shortens the journey to a little over an hour.)  When I first signed up to teach a year in Metz, I always thought it was ironic, given their reputation, that my friends in Paris would say, "Now, remember, the people in the east of France aren't warm and open like we are."  Since I have no family here, I'd spend the holidays with my French family: Frédéric, a tailor; Gérard, his partner; Paule, his twin sister; and their mother, Simonne (yes, with two n's).  Later, Jean, Paule's partner and now husband, joined the family.  In the days leading up to Christmas, Frédéric would continue to work.  I'd sleep late and then take the bus downtown to do my shopping.  The streets would be crowded with pedestrians, and as an extra treat, there would be stands selling hot chestnuts.  After twenty years, buying original gifts got harder and harder, but I always found something.  A silver ramasse-miettes (which cleans bread crumbs from off the table) was one big hit.  Paule loved jewelry, so she was easy.  One year I brought her a ring that was my mother's.  I had no one to pass it on to, and its 1930s style fit perfectly with Paule's.  After shopping, I'd take the bus back, stopping at Frédéric's tailor shop, watching him bent over the table and listening to the hiss of steam from the irons.  He left school at age thirteen to apprentice as a tailor and worked in that profession until he retired.  When he began, people still ordered bespoke suits, but by the time I knew him, it seemed easier and cheaper to buy them off the rack, so he mainly did alterations and repairs with maybe only two or three orders for suits a year.  Still, since sewing on a button is an ordeal for me, I always watched in admiration.

On Christmas eve, there was the reveillon, the big evening dinner and gift exchange.  Paule would do the cooking--course after course.  Frédéric was supposed to close the shop early, but he never did, so Paule would panic when he wasn't home until after 7.  We all dressed for the occasion and sometime after 8, Frédéric, Gérard, and I would descend from the fourth floor apartment to the first floor where Paule and Simonne lived.  First, there would be the apéro, my choice always being Suze, a slightly bitter, gentian-flavored drink that was generally out of favor with the younger generation, and amuse-bouches.  About 9, we'd move to the table for three hours of feasting.  The first course was always oysters, which for some reason only Simonne and I liked.  Paule would've shucked three dozen of them, and they were all for Simonne and me, while the others ate shrimp and langoustines.  Even though Simonne was in her 80s, she could keep up with me.  Turkeys weren't popular in France, but there was usually fowl for the main course: often a goose, sometimes squab, capons, or tiny quail.  We would spend at least an hour over le plat principal (not the entrée, which is the first course, the entrance to the meal).  Then there was a salad.  French salads for this course are typically very small, just a few leaves as an interlude.  At the first meal I ever had at a friend's house in France, I took an American-sized helping before realizing that I had left almost nothing for the rest of the guests.  Next comes the cheese course, and Frédéric and I were alike in loving the runniest and stinkiest of cheeses (the very smelly époisse is my all-time favorite).  All of these courses were accompanied by many bottles of wine.  Finally, as midnight neared and "Minuit Chrétiens" ("O Holy Night" in our version) played, we'd switch to champagne for the dessert, always a bûche de Noel, or Yule log.  This first one of the season was always good, but then for the next week or so, everyone you'd visit would offer you yet more of the same dessert.  Much the same thing happens after Epiphany, when everyone serves a galette du roi, which is delicious the first time, but then when you've had it everywhere for the next week begins to get a little monotonous. 

Sometime after midnight, champagne glasses still in hand, we'd move to the living room for the opening of gifts.  Four or five hours of eating and drinking--that was perfectly normal and perfectly wonderful.  The next day, everyone visits everyone else, and the eating and drinking continues.  After a week of this, it's time for the reveillon for New Year's, and the whole cycle would begin again.  Who was that again who said that the people in eastern France weren't friendly?  For twenty years, they were my family, and I loved every minute and every mouthful of the two or three weeks I'd spend there.  Now Simonne and Gérard have died, and I won't be there.  The feasting will go on, though with a somewhat diminished family.

Another two weeks and the solstice will arrive.  The days will begin to grow longer.  What we need is a clean, well-lighted place--and oysters, goose, and stinky cheese don't hurt either.

They asked.  I told.  I recently read an essay, "Lottery Night," by Kim Stafford, recalling his experience with the draft lottery during the Vietnam war and his successful application for conscientious objector status.  Stafford is the author of a dozen books of poetry and prose and director of the writing program at Lewis and Clark College in Portland, but his bio is always accompanied by a mention of his being the son of former U.S. poet laureate William Stafford.  (It must be quite a burden never to escape your father's shadow.)  During WWII, the father was granted C.O. status, but was interned in labor camps.  The son had a much easier time being granted the C.O. exemption 25 years later.

Reading Stafford's essay reminded me of my own experiences with the Vietnam draft, and my memories, like Stafford's are a mixture of the very specific and the empty spaces in between--another instance of how inconsistently selective our memories are.  Even though being called for my pre-induction physical was a momentous event (it determined whether I would go to Vietnam and it was the occasion for coming out to my parents), I don't even remember what year it was.  I was a graduate student at the University of Oklahoma, but graduate school deferments had come to an end.  It must've been 1967 or 68 because I think I remember the apartment I lived in at the time (at an old complex near campus called the Alamo).  Every wall was painted black, and every window had been painted over.  I had just come out among all my friends, and the "if it feels good, do it" atmosphere meant that no one was shocked or judgmental, so despite the blackened surroundings, it was a very happy year.  I remember (I think) a cold walk in the early morning dark to catch a bus to Oklahoma City, where the physical was to take place.  Almost everyone on the bus was an OU student, most of whom, like me, were looking for ways to avoid the draft. 

The conscientious objector option wasn't on the table.  At the time, you had to declare that your objections were religious (the Supreme Court struck that part down sometime later) and that you opposed all wars.   I didn't satisfy either criterion.  Gays were prohibited from serving.  There was a question on the form asking whether you were homosexual, but I wasn't sure I was ready to "check the box."  I definitely remember how scared I was--and how relieved I was when the physical tests revealed that I had marginally high blood pressure.  The relief was short-lived, however, when they said I'd have to go to the OU health center every day for a week to have my blood pressure checked and then come back for a second pre-induction physical.  The blood pressure tests were normal, so that excuse disappeared.  I had heard that if you drank a lot of Cokes before you went for an exam, you would have high blood sugar levels, so on the way back for a second physical I swigged two or three bottles of Coke.  Now, in addition to being scared, I was in physical discomfort until it was time for the urine sample.  I do remember distinctly the combination of bashful bladder and great urgency.  Sure enough, the sugar level was too high, but once more I was sent back to the health center for a week of testing before returning for a third physical. 

The third cold, dark morning, I summoned my courage and checked the box.  It was my first public declaration that I was gay.  I nervously took the paper to the sergeant in charge.  He looked it over and then yelled across the room of what, looking back, seemed like a couple of hundred of men, "Hey, we've got a queer over here."  The room fell silent, and everyone stared at me, standing at the table, visibly scared.  "How do you know you're a queer?" he asked.  I mumbled "experience."  "What kind of experience?" he continued.  "Homosexual experience," I answered rather obviously.  He sent me to see a psychologist there, as I breathed a premature sigh of relief.  I don't remember any of the questions the psychologist asked, but he said that I would have to see a psychologist or psychiatrist to certify that I was really gay.  The worst was over, I thought.  It hadn't been pleasant, but all I had to do was get a letter from a doctor, and I'd be exempt.

A couple of days later, I started calling shrinks in Norman.  Everyone said the same thing: I'll have to treat you before I'll write the letter.  If they said they could "convert" me, I immediately eliminated them from the list.  Some said that they didn't want to change me but that I must be unhappy or maladjusted, and they wanted to help me be happier and better adjusted.  When I protested that I was quite happy with the ways things were, they dismissed this as denial.  I was getting panicky.  I wasn't going to Vietnam; I didn't qualify as a C.O., and I didn't particularly want to go to Canada or Sweden, the two most popular options.  Finally, a friend said he knew a sympathetic shrink at the El Reno Federal Penitentiary near Oklahoma City.  So off I went to the prison (I have no memory of how I arranged the meeting or how I got in) and met for five or ten minutes with the shrink who agreed to write a letter saying that he had treated me and that I was homosexual.  He sent me a copy of his letter which was so illiterate that I was afraid the draft board would think it was fraudulent, but soon I got a new draft card (you were required to carry these cards with you at all times) with my status changed from 1-A to 4-F.  And so, like many white, middle-class, educated men, I was exempted from going to Vietnam.

There was one further consequence: I had to explain to my parents why my draft status had changed overnight.  They were 500 miles away, so, scared once more, I told them over the phone.  I don't recall what my father said.  He wasn't happy (though I doubt that either of my parents were really surprised), and I'm sure he didn't say much.  I thought my mother would be understanding, but all I remember of her response is that we lived in a small town, the word would get around, and my father's reputation would suffer.  My friend Darrell still remembers that that evening I went to his apartment and spent an hour or two sweating over a long and probably overly sincere letter, hammered out on an old manual typewriter.  My parents didn't take long to come around and accept the sexuality of their only child. 

It's probably difficult now when only 1% of Americans have served in the armed forces during the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan to comprehend how the Vietnam draft affected the lives of so many Americans.  If the draft still existed, there is no way that we would have spent twelve years in these wars.  Of course, the draft doesn't exist, gays have been allowed to serve (quietly) since the Clinton administration, and now Don't Ask, Don't Tell has been repealed.  In my head, I know that's a great victory.  In my heart, however, I'm thankful that once upon a time there was a box to check.

Today's first draw:

N  S  E  I  D  H

SHINED

DINES  HIDES  HINDS  SHINE  SHIED  SNIDE

DENS  DIES  DINE  DISH  ENDS  HENS  HIDE  HIED  HIES   HIND  SEND  SHED  SHIN    SIDE  SINE

DEN  DIE  DIN  END  HEN  HID  HIE  HIS  INS  SHE  SIN

Total points:  11,950

The second draw:

D  R  U  D  S  E

UDDERS

UDDER  DUDES

DUDE  DUDS  DUES  REDS  RUDE  RUED  RUES  RUSE  SUED  SURE  USED  USER

DUD  DUE  RED  RUE  SUE  USE

Total points now:  19,570

I used to be obsessed with TextTwist.  I would play for hours at a time, always telling myself that I'd stop as soon as I got to the next 100,000 or the next half hour.  But then at the half hour, I'd be a few thousand points short of a 100,000 mark, so I'd go on till...  Well, till I was exhausted and my brain stopped functioning.  When I first hit, 1,000,000 points, I thought now I'll quit for good.  But then I played some more and passed the million point mark; when I hit 2,000,000, I thought now I'll quit for good because I'm never going to reach that score again.  But I kept playing, and when I hit 3,000,000, I said finally I'll quit for good because I really will never hit that total again.  And quit I did.

I've started again, but now I ignore the score and don't save my games.  If I need to let the dog out, I'll just let the time expire and lose my points so I can open the door.  And it's become boring to do the smaller words; if I type 'era,' I automatically type 'are' and 'ear'; 'ram' leads to 'arm' and 'mar.'  How many times can even the most obsessive person type 'rat,' 'art,' and 'tar'?

Still, when I go to bed at night, six-letter combinations float through my mind.  S H I S E R--how many words can I make from that?  How many can I hold in mind while I drift off?  P T S O leads to six amazing combinations: post, pots, tops, spot, stop, and opts.  Can I find any other four-letter combo that's so productive?  I run through the alphabet.  Soon, if I'm lucky, the letters float away, and my mind and body shut down.  Another day is over--as long as letters don't appear in my dreams (reams, mares, drams...).

How're you doing? you ask.  I can't complain.  I remember writing those last three words a couple of times in earlier blogs.  But, of course, I do complain--at least in my head.  Maybe it's time to do it outloud.  It's too early to be a grinch stealing Christmas.  And it's too late to ruin Thanksgiving.  So here are some things I'm not thankful for.

I'm not thankful for all the discomfort that has followed the surgery on my right leg.  I was incredibly naive; I thought that it would be like a hip replacement and that after a little therapy, I'd be as good as new.  But none of the bone in the top half of my femur was salvageable; it's pure titanium for the top several inches and plastic for the ball joint of the hip.  There was no bone left for the muscles to attach to, so they had to be artificially attached to the titanium and plastic.  I don't mind the slight limp or having to carry a cane when I leave the house.  And there's not really pain.  But if I sit in the same position for very long, the discomfort makes itself known.  To stand up, I have to put down whatever is in my hand, and push myself up using at least one hand.  Every set of stairs requires a deep breath before I take the first step.  Getting dressed or undressed involves sitting down, standing up, sitting down, standing up--one item at a time.  Putting on my right sock is an ordeal.  I can't cut the toenails on my right foot.  When I had the surgery, we had an Altima coupe.  I loved the car, but getting in and out was a nightmare.  The lease was up in August of 2011, and we ventured out in the Kansas heat to search for a new car that would be more comfortable--one dealership a day.  We leased a Toyota Venza, the biggest car I've ever had.  The seat is ass level, so I can just sit down on it.  What I can't do is get my right leg in the car by itself.  Every time I have to use my hand to haul it in.  I realize that this is hardly a major problem, but on each occasion it seems like a small symbol of frustration.

I'm not thankful for all the stomach problems caused by the chemo--or by the new meds I take (three blood pressure pills, for example) to combat the side effects of the chemo, all with their own side effects.  Food and drink are no longer sources of pleasure.  I rarely have much appetite, and even when I do, after a few bites, I've lost my taste for whatever I'm eating.  I no longer enjoy wine--or even Diet-Coke.  At least, I get my eight glasses of water a day.  The frequent bouts of diarrhea are really debilitating.  They're both physically and psychologically exhausting--and potentially embarrassing.  I can't leave the house without taking a couple of Imodiums, and I always have some with me.  Many days I don't leave the house at all.  I'd like to find a cause-and-effect between what I eat and its consequences, but after 18 months, I've given up the search.  Thai food, which I love, seems to be (usually) just fine.  Mexican food, as anyone more rational than I am should know, is (usually) disastrous.  Sushi is my fallback; it always looks and tastes good.  I can eat it at my own pace since I don't have to worry about its getting cold, and it is fresh and cooling.  Still, three or four sushi dinners a week is probably enough for anyone.  Other than that, however, what doesn't have unfortunate effects one day doesn't work the next.  For a long time, I was successful in avoiding nausea, usually a common side effect of chemo.  That's changed lately, and I find myself with my head in the sink having the "dry heaves."  I've got yet another pill that calms my stomach down and is also, according to the label, effective against schizophrenia, just in case the voices that I hear aren't coming from the TV.  It generally works well, but what it can't do once the nausea has passed is give me an appetite.

I'm not thankful for the constant bouts of fatigue.  I always write the blog first thing in the morning, because that's when I have the most energy.  Then, maybe four hours after I've taken the chemo, I crash.  If I have to, I can power my way through the first bout, but whether I have or not, I will always need to sleep for a couple of hours after lunch.  It's not a choice; it's not a power nap, or any other kind.  It's a sudden black curtain that descends.  The fatigue organizes my day.  I'm a gregarious person, and visitors or lunches out are always energizing for me.  But I know that those good hours are going to be followed by the crash.  When you've always thought of yourself as energetic and independent, the fatigue, especially when complicated by the diarrhea, causes a whole new sense of self--and not one that I like very much.  Instead of my personality being a mosaic--or hodgepodge--of many characteristics, living-with-cancer seems to have taken over as the boss of all the others.

I'm not thankful that travel is out.  I'm not thankful that driving is a rarity these days. 

Kvetch, kvetch, kvetch.  Let's hope it's out of my system for a while.  When I started writing this, there was an ad on TV supporting the Wounded Veterans Project.  What the veterans in the commercial were struggling to overcome was so much more serious than anything I've mentioned here that I felt guilty about continuing.  But continue I did.  Otherwise, cancer shmancer, abi gesund!

A long-time friend asked why in my pre-Thanksgiving blog about family traditions, there was no mention of cousins.  Didn't I have any?  I had eight cousins, seven on my father's side.  But my father was the second youngest of seven children, and my mother was nearly 40 when I was born (a very late pregnancy for a first child in 1945), so my cousins were all 15 years or so older than I was and by the time I had childhood memories weren't a part of anything that I remember well.   I was always struck by the idea that my father's siblings and their spouses had the ugliest names imaginable: Clifford and Leila, Wilma and Willard, Roy and Maxine, Lucille and Les, Ava and Ralph, and Melvin and another Wilma.  My parents, Howard and Ruth, seemed to have gotten off easily.  Although all seven of the siblings talked about the joys of growing up in a large family, all but one of them, who had three children, had either one or no children of their own.   My paternal grandparents had a small farm in southern Iowa.  My grandfather, who died before I was born, had either an illness or a farm injury (it was never talked about) that limited his abilities to farm, so the children carried a lot of the load.  I remember occasional visits to my grandmother's house, but she, unlike my mother's mother, always seemed dour, and I didn't look forward to visiting her.  She died when I was young, and looking back, I can see that raising seven children on a small farm wasn't exactly a prescription for levity. 

My favorite aunt and uncle were Roy and Maxine, who lived in a big (or so it seemed to me) white farm house where, when we visited, I slept in a feather bed.  They laughed a lot, cooked big meals, and had a dog named Skipper.  Roy would throw pieces of chewing gum to Skipper, who would give them a chomp or two before swallowing them.  As a child, I thought this was extremely entertaining, especially because I had always wanted a dog, and my parents would never get me one.  Dogs made my father nervous, and my mother professed to be afraid of them.  There was one short-lived and unfortunate experience with a dog.  I don't know where he came from or why my parents broke down, but for about a week, I had a dog which I named, with a distinct lack of orginality, Skippy.  My parents didn't want him in the house, and we didn't have a fenced-in yard, so Skippy spent his few days with us in the breezeway between the house and the garage.  He cried and whined a lot, which didn't endear him to my parents.  And one day when I came home from school, my mother told me that Skippy had suddenly contracted some unknown disease and had died at the vet's.  I wasn't convinced by the story, but Skippy was never talked about again.

Once I lived on my own, I promptly got a dog, which I named Caleb (Hebrew and Arabic for 'dog') and which my parents loved.  Later I had a cocker, Ryder, for 16 years, and he provided good company for my mother once she had moved to Topeka.  My French-Egyptian friend Mona always had five dogs at a time (as well as three coyotes).  Most of them were English cockers, but she also had a rottweiler (a sweet dog which once in a moment of anger ripped my right arm to shreds and then bit me in the ass), a shepherd, and others.  My parents loved Mona and soon got over their resistance to dogs.

On my mother's side, I had one cousin, and she did live in Story City, but she was eight years older than I was, so I wasn't particularly close to her either.  I've written about her before: she became an evangelical Christian who told me that she "wept and prayed" over me every night because I was going to hell.   She also told me she never put a cake in the oven without a prayer that it would be successful.  I refrained from asking why a god would be more concerned about her cake than about starving children or whether, if the cake didn't turn out perfectly, she thought she was being punished.  When I was in my 20s, she asked if we could meet for a talk.  I knew what direction she was going to take, but agreed as long as we'd meet in the bar of a restaurant.  Story City had always had a "beer parlor" or two, but once Interstate 35 was built a mile away, several restaurants with bars opened at the exit.  The conversation quickly turned to religion, and Mary asked whether I didn't think the reason that I didn't love "God" was because I was unmarried and had never loved another human.  I said that I had been with the same man for seven years, so I had indeed loved a person.  She shuddered.  That was what she had thought, but didn't want to believe: her only cousin was gay.  She charitably told me that God hated the sin, but loved the sinner, so she would pray harder for me now that I was doubly damned.  So far, I don't think her 40 years of prayers have had much effect.  I hope they've worked better for her cakes.

When my mother died, Mary created a scene at the funeral because the funeral director put my partner, not her, in the lead car to the cemetery.  We didn't speak for years after that, but then I decided that since I was her only cousin (she did have four children, and her whole family remained evangelical), I should make peace, so I wrote her a letter saying that we should be friendly.  She wrote back that as a Christian, she had of course "forgiven" me, but that she was surprised that an atheist like me would even ask for forgiveness, which hadn't been a word that figured in my letter.  She added a P.S. to her letter asking that a water color that her mother had done and which, Mary said, her mother had "lent" to my mother be returned.  And that was the end of my attempt at reconciliation.

So, yes, I had cousins--eight of them.  I know that two are still alive and that one has died.  About the other five, whom I never really knew, I have no idea.  Roy and Maxine's daughter sends me a Christmas card every year.  Her daughter teaches at a private school in Kansas City, and for 25 years, we always say that we should get together when my cousin comes to KC to visit her daughter, but we never have.  Since I never knew my cousins well (except for Mary, or Mary Margaret as she was called when I did know her), I never really felt the lack.  Not having a dog--that's a different story, but a lack I remedied as soon as I could.

Thanksgiving day, like the days that had preceded it, began beautifully.  The temperature reached 74º, a record for Thanksgiving here.  But as the afternoon faded too early into night, the temperature dropped and the winds picked up, a reminder of the winter that soon may come.  Robert Frost might be described as a poet of onset--of night, of winter, of death.  And one of my favorites of his poems is called "The Onset":

Always the same, when on a fated night
At last the gathered snow lets down as white
As may be in dark woods, and with a song
It shall not make again all winter long
Of hissing on the yet uncovered ground,
I almost stumble looking up and round,
As one who overtaken by the end
Gives up his errand, and lets death descend
Upon him where he is, with nothing done
To evil, no important triumph won,
More than if life had never been begun.

Yet all the precedent is on my side:
I know that winter death has never tried
The earth but it has failed: the snow may heap
In long storms an undrifted four feet deep
As measured again maple, birch, and oak,
It cannot check the peeper's silver croak;
And I shall see the snow all go down hill
In water of a slender April rill
That flashes tail through last year's withered brake
And dead weeds, like a disappearing snake.
Nothing will be left white but here a birch,
And there a clump of houses with a church.

 

Two days till Thanksgiving.  I don't have lots of memories of childhood holidays; my parents didn't make a big to-do over them.  I'm not sure why.  We didn't have a lot of money, but I think it was probably more temperamental.  I remember that most Easter mornings, I went with Kathy Johnson, my best friend, to a sunrise service at one of the local Lutheran churches.  Afterwards, there was a breakfast.  I think it used to be one of the two semi-annual lutefisk and lefse meals (lutefisk is truly one of the most disgusting and stinky culinary inventions ever), but my memory may be faulty about that.  A couple of years I remember dyeing Easter eggs, and two or three times we bought small, dyed chicks with the predictable disastrous results.  But usually I'd come home from the Lutheran service, and my mother would have hidden candy on the window sills behind the curtains.  Since the chocolate eggs were always in the same place, the "Easter egg hunt" wasn't time consuming.  And then the Sunday went on as other days. 

Christmas was a little more festive.  The tree went up a week before Christmas and came down a few days afterwards.  My mother was always convinced that it would catch fire from the lights, so two weeks was an absolute maximum.  It was always a small tree that we set on a table.  On Christmas eve, I got to choose the meal; it was always sloppy Joes, which we called "made-rites."  I remember waiting eagerly for my dad to get home from work, so we could rush through the meal, and I could open my presents.  On Christmas morning, Santa would have delivered some small additional gifts, but the best ones came the night before.  I'm sure we must have gone to church either in the evening or on Christmas day, but I don't really have any memories of it.

Nor do I really remember many Thanksgiving dinners.  I think we usually went to Aunt Olive (my mother's sister) and Uncle Glenn's.  They also lived in Story City, a couple of blocks away.  There wasn't much class difference in a town of 1500 people, but Olive and Glenn had more money and a bigger house than my parents.  They had lived in a small house while Uncle Glenn built their bigger one, in front of which he placed a sign reading "Coffman Manor," much to the disdain of my parents.  They had a huge rec room in the basement with all sorts of games and a bar.  I loved it there.  My parents thought the addition of the bar confirmed their suspicions about Uncle Glenn, who walked around every day carrying a glass bottle of Coca-Cola, which my parents were sure was laced with bourbon.  I think we spent some Thanksgivings in Des Moines with Aunt Lucille (my father's sister) and Uncle Les.  Aunt Lucille worked at a large, local department store and seemed to me the height of sophistication.  Uncle Les was a traveling salesman, who, it later turned out, had enjoyed the privileges of his itinerant lifestyle.  I remember many happy times with Olive, Glenn, Lucille, and Les, but I don't have any specific memories of Thanksgiving dinners. 

One tradition that we definitely didn't have was going around the table saying what we were thankful for.  I can't even imagine anyone suggesting doing so or feeling anything but embarrassment if they'd been called upon.  But now, fifty or sixty years later, maybe I'll start the tradition.  I'm thankful this Thanksgiving that
     I'm still alive (and kicking, though not so well with my right leg)
     I am sharing my life with Mohamed
     Without biological family, I'm surrounded by friends--old and new, distant and near--who give me limitless support and lively conversation and good food and love
     Someone invented Votrient (and Imodium)
     The doctors and nurses at KU Med inspire confidence and are always compassionate and give personalized care
      No one has ever treated Mohamed as anything other than my spouse
      Despite the first six entries' being about health, my "diminished" life is rich in so many other ways
      Mitt spent his weekend seeing a "Twilight" movie rather than planning his move into the White House
     Obamacare won't be dismantled and others will have access to insurance like mine that will keep them out of bankruptcy
     Newt and Reince and other appropriately named Republicans won't go away and will continue to be sources of outrage and comedy
     Calista's hair remains invulnerable
     Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert will keep me amused and informed
     There is an unending supply of wonderful books--familiar and new--to keep my mind active
     My Kindle will deliver them to this impatient reader within sixty seconds
     Kimber, our German shepherd, has decided that her new orthopedic bed is comfortable after all
     Like last year, we'll spend Thanksgiving with Laura and François and their two sons, and there will be good food, good conversation, and good laughs.

I'm also thankful for Frosted Mini-Wheats, sushi, Susan Flannery, Chris Hayes and Melissa Harris-Perry, "Frasier" re-runs, and TextTwist.

Now that I've started the tradition, I promise that next year, the list will be even longer.
    
    

Yesterday was sunny and pleasant.  We left Topeka at 8:45; it seems no matter what the traffic is like, it takes exactly 75 minutes to get to the KC Cancer Center.  The parking garage was nearly full, but we found a place on the roof (and, being able sometimes to read lips, got cursed by an elderly person of indeterminate sex who wasn't happy that we'd beaten him/her to the spot).  Although the waiting room was packed, we were called almost immediately by Anisa, one of our favorite nurses there.  She took my vitals, all of which were good.  Despite my erratic eating, my weight remains stable; I've lost about 10# over the last 18 months--none of it, it seems, from my stomach.  I guess that's ok, since it gives Mohamed plenty of targets for my daily shot.

Our first visitor in the consultation room was an intern (or resident) who seemed moderately informed about my condition.  He got off to a good start by noting that the problems had started two years ago in my left shoulder.  His knowledge quickly went downhill, though, when he didn't know about the surgery on my femur or which chemo medication I was taking.  He was quite confident, indeed overconfident, and I finally asked whether we were actually going to see Dr. Hozbeierlein.  He got the hint and left "to have a conference with Dr. Holz."  Luckily, Dr. Holz entered immediately and was friendly and frank.  From the first, we felt confidence in him.  Dr. Vanveldhuizen speaks slowly and softly.  Despite the fact that we were in a small, windowless room, Dr. Holz talked fast and loudly.  He said that if we decided to have surgery, he would do a nephrectomy and remove the entire kidney.  Trying to remove just the tumor would require open surgery and would be more invasive and dangerous.  The entire kidney could be removed laproscopically with two or three days in the hospital and, perhaps, a three-week recovery time before I was able to return to my normal routine and, for example, lift heavy objects (as if I worked on a loading dock).  He said that there are some data that suggest that removing the kidney might prolong my life by a few months, but that there aren't many data and certainly not enough to make real predictions.  He also said--and this was new information--that a nephrectomy might further compromise my immune system and thus actually be counterproductive.  He suggested that if I decided to have surgery, I would probably want to wait till after the holidays.  I said that if I chose that option, it would probably be better to do it between semesters, since Mohamed would be tasked with the increased caregiving.

Finally, I asked the question that I would think doctors don't really like (though that's just a guess): if he were in my position, what would he do.  He said that the trajectory of my cancer wasn't "normal," that it's quite common for chemotherapy for kidney cancer to be effective against secondary tumors (as mine has been) but not so much against the primary tumor.  But although my tumor has grown, at 4.1 cm. it is still relatively small.  His approach would be to wait and watch.  I have a Dec. 10th appointment with Dr. Van, but just for bloodwork and discussion.  The next CT scans will be about six weeks after that, and he saw no harm in waiting to see how the kidney tumor has progressed (that doesn't seem like the appropriate word) at that point.  What did I think of that option?  Since my inclination had always been not to have the surgery and was more so after his point about the possibility of  a more severely compromised immune system, I was perfectly happy with that decision.  So the status quo remains in place till the end of January, and then we'll re-evaluate where I am.  We were both pleased with Dr. Holz, whose opinions were clear and balanced.

We left the Center, and met two KC friends, TJ and Scott, for lunch on nearby 39th Street, which is a restaurant row.  I don't think I made the best choice of places to eat, but I was the one who made the choice, so I won't be too hard on myself.  Both TJ and Scott are funny and smart, so that compensated for the so-so food.  For some reason, though we hadn't had to get up early and though there was nothing stressful about the consultation, I fell asleep on the car ride home, and then slept for an additional two hours once we got here.  The waves of energy followed by sudden and lengthy crashes are one of the most frustrating parts of my daily life.

Scott is coming in today for a visit.  Mohamed will have a less fun day, as he has tests in statistics and microeconomics on Tuesday.  And, having finished an article on Kid Rock in The New Yorker, which came yesterday, I have an article on Diane Ravitch, whom I find the sanest of writers on education, to look forward to before the rest of my day unfolds.   

"If a man lies with another man, he should be stoned."  Leviticus 20:13.  Marriage equality, legalized pot.  Who knew the Bible was so prescient?

I thought that I might be able to enjoy a certain schadenfreude watching the Republicans after the election as they tried to re-invent the party.  Instead, it's as if nothing has changed.  Four times in the last two days, I've had to endure TV interviews with Newt Gingrich--from "Today" to "The Colbert Report."  And softball interviews at that--unlike Jon Stewart's evisceration of Mike Huckabee a couple of nights ago.  Although the Republicans may talk nice now about immigration reform, for example, it's not because of any change of beliefs (and they don't even pretend that's the motivation for their revised stances) but because of their fear (different tune, same motives) of the new demographics.  Huckabee and Gingrich are just two of the same, old, failed faces that are still pontificating.  Punditry has no consequences--except inflated bank accounts.

When Elizabeth Warren debated with Scott Brown, she was asked which Republicans in the Senate she could work with if elected.  The best she could come up with was Richard Lugar, who by that time had already been defeated in his primary by the ineffable Richard Mourdock.  Her response was widely mocked.  But if we think about it, who is there?  Is there one single Republican Senator who lives outside the bubble or who isn't afraid that if s/he makes the slightest compromise, there isn't going to be a challenge by a Tea Bagger in the next primary? 

As a respite from thinking about politics and health (and generals who go "haywire below the belt," as my friend Carol would put it), I've been immersed in two wonderful novels.  One was written 350 years ago, the other 80 years ago; one was in English, the other in French; one I had never read before, the other perhaps four or five times; one I read on my Kindle, the other the old-fashioned way.  Both were disjointed, "modernist," comic romps.  The first was Tristram Shandy, which I'm embarrassed to say I had never read; the second was Le chiendent by Raymond Queneau, one of my go-to novels that gives me pleasure every time I read it.  Tristram Shandy was familiar for its famous scenes of the narrator's misfortunate life--from his father's interruption of Shandy's conception by the mother's suddenly asking her husband whether he has remembered to wind the clock to Tristram's inadvertent circumcision by a falling window as the maid has forgotten to replace the chamber pot and Shandy is relieving himself through an open window.  But most of all what's famous is Sterne's theme and variations on human "hobby horses," the obsessions that drive human behavior and channel it into narrow but persistent routines (like winding the clock and having sex on Sunday nights).  The novel goes nowhere for hundreds of pages, but it never ceases to be sharp witted and keenly observant.  Sterne calls it at last a "cock and bull" story, but, like most human lives, one with less of a dramatic arc than with silly and repetitive diversions.

Le chiendent (literally a weed, but colloquially a dilemma, a "pickle") is equally playful, especially with language.  The main character, as much as the book can be said to have one, is Etienne Marcel (a real 14th century French politician who has a major street and a métro stop in Paris named after him), who begins the book as a silhouette, evolves into a two-dimensional being when he breaks his daily routine in leaving the bank where he works to notice rubber ducks swimming in a waterproof hat, and then into a fully human character before disappearing from the "plot" for several chapters and eventually diminishing back into a silhouette.  The book is full of characters with their own hobby horses, the most disastrous the assumption that a junkman's blue door conceals a hidden treasure.  But to try to re-tell the plot would be as futile as summarizing Tristram Shandy, and as in that novel, traditional notions of plot and character are discarded in favor of the often very funny, but completely non-linear, vagaries of human nature and the language through which they are expressed.

Since I was re-reading Queneau, I also treated myself to another trip through Zazie dans le métro, the story of a foul-mouthed young girl who is babysat by her uncle (a happily married man who dances in drag for the amusement of tourists, his tour de force being a tutu-clad performance of "The Death of a Swan") while her mother has a weekend tryst.  Zazie's sole desire during her weekend in Paris is to take the métro, which is unfortunately on strike.  This very funny (and even more playful with language) novel was made into a wonderful movie by Louis Malle. 

Friday morning, to shift topics, we have an appointment in Kansas City with the surgeon who would do the procedure if I decide to have the kidney tumor removed, either by surgery or by ablation.  Saturday's blog entry will let you know how the discussion went.

After several days of beautiful, warm weather, at 12:15 this morning, a cold front came through--temperatures started dropping (and will continue to drop throughout the day) and a hard, cold rain began to fall.  Sometimes, Topeka has beautiful, long autumns.  Not this year.  The combination of a very hot, very dry summer, an early hard freeze, and many windy days meant that the autumn leaves fell abruptly.  We have a large, old cottonwood tree in the backyard.  A year or so ago, it was struck in the night by lightning.  We heard a loud, cracking sound, and sparks began to fall from the branches.  It was a frightening time: did we need to call the fire department or would the rain put out any fires?  After a few minutes of hesitation, I went back to bed, telling Mohamed to keep an eye on it.  (What a thoughtful husband I am!)  The fire never spread, but the tree was badly damaged, and perhaps 30% of it had to be cut away.  Still, the tree survives.  Every year, it loses most of its leaves early in the fall.  But a few always hang on until after the rest of the trees in the yard have lost their foliage.  And every year, when I look at those few leaves, I think of Shakespeare's sonnet 73, which begins "That time of year thou mayst in me behold / When yellow leaves, or none, or few do hang..."  Last year, when those lines went through my head, I was pretty sure that it would be the last time I needed them.  Luckily, I was wrong.

I always recalled too the time when two final candidates for a vacant Shakespeare position came to campus for an interview and a presentation.  Both interviewed well.  The first candidate's presentation involved deconstructing a rather obscure history play, one of those plays that probably none of us had read.  Even in a graduate class or seminar in Shakespeare, it was an unlikely choice.  In 1977, I had been a post-doc Fellow at the School of Criticism and Theory, then held at U Cal-Irvine.  This was near the beginning of the theoretical revolution that brought an end to the close reading of the New Criticism, as it had always been called, and brought Deconstruction, Reader Response, and the New Historicism to the center of academic lit. crit.   Our teachers were among the biggest names in the new direction: Edward Said, Stanley Fish, Barbara Herrnstein Smith.  For a small-town guy from Iowa who had gone to grad school at a university much more known for its football team than for its English department, this was a heady summer.  Everyone was in awe of the handsome and exotic Edward Said.  Stanley Fish was the friendliest, often coming at night to the co-ed dorm where the Fellows lived.  (Since he later married one of us, Jane Tompkins, who became famous herself as a critic, perhaps his motives were not as social as we thought.)   I'm not sure many of us actually understood what we were hearing, but that didn't seem to matter.  And it didn't hurt that almost every afternoon, we took a break to lounge on the sand at nearby Newport Beach.

I did my final paper for Murray Krieger, an old-school New Critic who was, I thought, often treated rather badly by the new guard.  No one has ever said that academics were above petty frays.  Adlai Stevenson once said that powerlessness corrupts, and absolute powerlessness...  I wrote my major paper for Krieger on ekphrasis in Light in August and was temporarily proud of it.  But the last day we were there, I was browsing in the university bookstore and came across a collection of essays by Krieger, which included one on ekphrasis in Light in August.  Mine was a pale imitation of Krieger's, and I was panicked.  I rushed to his office to try to explain, though no explanation could account for how I had ignored my own professor's scholarship on this narrow topic.  Krieger was the kindest and gentlest of men, and he was extremely gracious in understanding and assuring me that he took my coming to the same conclusions as a form of flattery.  I left his office and the summer Fellowship feeling only slightly reassured--and much more strongly embarrassed.

But to get back to my point (and I do have one, as Ellen used to say), I was duly (and snobbishly) impressed by the first candidate's presentation.  The second candidate, Maureen (Mo), was much smarter.  She did a traditional explication of sonnet 73.  All of us knew the sonnet, and she passed out copies of it to revive our familiarity.  All of us understood and practiced close reading.  It was amazing how quickly we fell into the role of students.  We all puzzled over phrases; we all asked questions.  I still remember mine: wouldn't it, I asked, have been more logical to reverse the order of 'none' and 'few' in the second line?   I thought to myself that the presentation was a great success and an example of how good teaching worked.  I also thought that it was too easy, and so I voted for the first candidate.

Fortunately, I was in a small minority, as Mo was hired and became one of our most effective and popular teachers, to say nothing of a wonderful colleague and friend.  After three years on phased retirement, she retires completely at the end of this year.  I told her once of how I voted, and, like Krieger, she said she understood completely.  I never brought it up again, though.  There was no sense in pushing my luck.

Today's blog is my 100th with over 8,000 pageviews.  When I first created rabbitpunched, I had no idea I'd be around for so many entries.  Looking back at the early entries, I wrote a lot about cancer, death, and atheism.  Since then, I've wandered off into many byways.  Thanks to those of you who read the blog regularly and often send kind words via e-mail (almost everyone has given up on trying to post comments).  I hope those readers from around the world who drop in now and then find something to enjoy.  I can't tell anything about the audience except which countries are represented, and I have no idea how they find the blog.  I've lost what were for several months faithful readers in Russia; today, though, there are readers from Poland to Peru, from Indonesia to Israel. 

Between health and politics, I'm feeling much less anxious today.  The surgeon called, and we'll have a consultation next Friday, the 16th.  At the least the doctors at KU Med work for salaries, not fee-for-service, so Dr. Hozbeierlein's advice will be disinterested.  The appointment is scheduled for 10:30, which means I won't be exhausted by having had to get up early and there won't have been any tests.  No matter how attentive Mohamed and I are, there is information that on later reflection seems ambiguous.  When we talked with the Fellow last time about alternative chemo treatments, my understanding was that a clinical trial would involve Votrient + either a placebo or the trial drug.  But one of my readers interpreting what I described thought it meant stopping the Votrient and taking only the new drug (or the placebo).  So now I have something else to add to the list of questions for the doctors.  Although nothing has been decided about either surgery or chemo, I feel relieved at least to have the next two consultations scheduled.

And, of course, post-election we can breathe a huge sigh of relief--and more, celebrate some real happiness.  Results in Kansas weren't any surprise; from the national level to the statehouse, everything is controlled by ultra-conservatives.  There are no longer any checks on our right-wing governor.  There hasn't been an elected Democratic Senator since 1932, the longest streak of any state in the country.  I did manage to vote for three winning candidates--Obama and a couple of county officials.  Topeka re-elected two Democratic state senators, but my district re-elected the last moderate Republican, the only one who survived the intraparty purge in the primary.  For my state representative, I could have voted for Gandhi (diversity comes to Kansas) but his Republican affiliation ruled him out.

Tuesday evening, for me at least, lacked the tension of 2008.  Between Nate Silver and Chuck Todd's key county projections, it looked pretty early as if Obama was going to win.  There were wonderful Senate wins: Elizabeth Warren, Claire McCaskill, and Tammy Baldwin, to name three.  And Tammy Duckworth, after disgusting attacks from her Republican opponent, won a House seat.  The House, unfortunately, remains at least as conservative and intractable as it was before.  Sometimes I feel sorry for John Boehner--his copious tears running over and blurring his spray-tanned face until it's the same color as his nicotine-stained fingers, all the while Eric Cantor is waiting to push him out of the Speakership. 

And it was a landmark night for the LGBT community.  Voters in three states--Maine, Maryland, and Washington--approved same-sex marriage, and Minnesota voted down a ban on such marriages.  (Vikings punter Chris Kluwe, whom I follow on Twitter, was a tireless worker on behalf of the no vote.)  One can argue that civil rights shouldn't be a matter put to majority vote, but still, this was the first time that voters--not the courts or legislatures--approved same-sex marriage after a string of defeats at the polls.  Minnesota also said no to requiring voter IDs, and more states legalized the use of marijuana, including for recreational purposes. 

We flipped around to watch the election returns (skipping CNN because I can't look at Wolf Blitzer any more), including some time with Fox news--and this time it wasn't even masochistic.  For some reason, Fox called many states--Wisconsin first, followed by Virginia, Ohio, Nevada--for the Democrats long before the other networks did.  The discussion on Fox seemed almost dazed, though you could already see the battle within the Republican party that is sure to ensue.  On the one side were the die-hard conservatives, like Charles Krauthammer (other than Donald Trump, is there a more repulsive Republican than Krauthammer?) arguing for moving harder to the right; on the other were the pragmatists, i.e., those who chose demographics over ideology.  I was trying to think why so many middle-class voters, especially of course white men, voted against their own economic interests (Thomas Frank's "What's the Matter with Kansas?" analysis).  Since one of the "common sense" assumptions of American life is that we're all following the American dream (there's no "French dream" or "Canadian dream"; our obsession seems to be part of the more general assumption of American exceptionalism) and since one fact is that that dream seems to be slipping away from the middle class (and even less possible for the poor, who were virtually ignored during the campaign), the fear of losing that dream to the interests of increasing numbers of blacks and browns trumps (no pun intended) the unreality of the promise that the wealth of the supposed "job creators" will trickle down and keep the dream alive.

Factoid:  this is the first time since Jefferson, Madison, and Monroe that three consecutive President have been elected to serve two terms.  For those of us who began voting in the 60s, when it looked as if one-term Presidents would be the norm (Kennedy was assassinated, LBJ didn't run for a second full term, Nixon resigned, Ford and Carter were defeated for second terms), the landscape has changed.  But even though Congress had a historically low approval rating, there were very few changes Tuesday in the overall composition; there the status quo remained in place. 

And so ends blog #100.